Every day is an opportunity to evaluate how we affect the people that care the most about us. Treating them right would make life better for us while hurting them would also hurt us.

"Hurt people hurt people. That's how pain patterns get passed on, generation after generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with sympathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles. Forgive and forget about finding fault. Love is the weapon of the future."

"Every day is an opportunity to evaluate how we affect the people that care the most about us"

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I know it's not easy. It can't be. You really want to give him/her/them a piece of your mind, you want to treat them exactly as they treated you, you want them to feel the pain you felt. I know. I know. However, an eye for an eye will leave the whole world blind.

At some point, someone must end the cycle, someone must say ~ this is it, it goes no further, someone must take the high road. Well, let that someone be you.

Be the difference maker, be the one that starts a new cycle of healing from one generation to the next generation and to the next generation. Healed people heal people.

Let love rule you.

Love conquers all.

Much love ~ ❤💕💕❤

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"If you never heal from what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you." - I first came across this quote about a year ago. I was like WHOAAAA. That's so true!

Remember when I wrote "Who Says Divorced Single Mums are Weak?", it was one of my healing stories.

I have had to put myself in the picture of that quote. I asked myself the question - Shayo, have you fully healed from what hurt you or are you still bleeding on people who didn't cut you? Well, the honest answer was, I hadn't fully healed. I still had trust issues back then and it still resurfaces every now and again, even now.

However, this is one thing I have learned: Getting hurt may not have been my fault, but getting healed is 100% my responsibility.

Your Bleeding Does not Hurt Only You

It's just not fair putting the burden of past failures/mistakes on somebody else. It's not fair allowing somebody else to pay for your pain. Bleeding on people who did not cut you is absolutely unfair.

I mean, if they truly love you and care, they will immediately want to help care for the wound, clean it and bind it and soothe you until it heals. Yet, if you keep taking off the bandage and picking on the wound, how long do you want them to keep helping you bind this wound?

You see, your healing is your responsibility. You have to decide to get healed for YOU! You have to decide to get healed so you don't keep bleeding on people who didn't hurt you. You have to decide to get healed, so others don't continue to carry the burden of your past. It's just not fair on people.

Why People Abuse those they Love

One thing I have discovered about abusers is that there is a root cause.

Read this blog I shared early in the year: What's the Right Way to Raise a Girl?

Something went wrong in their foundation. Something happened to them at some point in their life and because it wasn't dealt with and because they did not seek help, they have become the person they are today.

In as much as that is understandable and explains their behaviour, does it excuse it, however? NO, IT DOES NOT!

Yes, you were hurt.
Yes, you were betrayed.
Yes, you were molested.
Yes, you were abused.
Yes, you were cheated on.
Yes, you were made to feel worthless.
Yes, you were accused of a crime you did not commit.
Yes, you were lied on.
Yes...Yes...Yes...

We understand....that explains how you feel and act....but does it justify it? NO, IT DOES NOT.

YOUR HEALING IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
YOUR HEALING IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
YOUR HEALING IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
YOUR HEALING IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.

Please, take responsibility for your healing and stop bleeding all over those who did not cut you.

If this rings true for you, just take it and say ouch. Then go work on yourself!!!